Ich wünschte, es könnte immer so sein

Heute war ein grauer Tag. Einer mit nassen Füßen, der dir beim Fahrradfahren die Hose an die Beine klebt mit dem Regen. Und die 90 Minuten im Seminar reichen nicht, um zu trocknen. Es war ein Tag mit vollgesogenen Fahrradsatteln und seenartigen Pfützen, wo gestern noch letztes Weiß schimmerte. Und trotz bleigrauem Himmel, trotz Fluten und Wind - die Stadt spielte Frühling! Ich wünschte, es könnte immer so sein. Nicht das Wetter. Das erneute Verblüfftsein. Plusgrade! Weiche Luft! Ich wusste gar nicht, dass mir das so gefehlt hat!
Der Schnee und der Frost und das Schlittern nehmen mich jeden Winter für sich ein und ich hole den Schlitten, warte auf ersten Schneemann-Schnee und bezuckerte Bäume. Und es macht mich froh. Dieses Frösteln, das Eisige, das um die Häuser streicht. Aber wenn dann die ersten warmen Tage kommen, das Tauwetter und der Matsch und wenn die Luft nicht mehr klirrt... dann ist es, als würde ich erneut meine Augen öffnen für diese Welt und mein Herz klopft vor Atemlosigkeit. Dann geht alles durch mich hindurch und ich kann alles fühlen. Alles. Ein Julikind kommt heim.

Maybe it is like walking down a corridor. A corridor that seems endless. Doors on both sides. A fluffy carpet beneath your feet and fancy looking lamps above your head. The corridor is not broad enough to walk anywhere else than exactly in the middle of it. And so you do. You go on and on. And if you ever want to get anywhere, you have to decide, not only how far to go, but also which door to open. They all look the same with their golden handles and thei dark wood complexion. You pass the lights, the doors, the years maybe. Left or right? This one or the next? You wish they would carry numbers, so you could choose you favourite. But they all look the same. Undistinguishable, neither inviting nor decidedly off-putting. And you walk. Hoping somebody will come out of one of these doors. Pull you in maybe. So one day you can climb stairs and run along beaches, instead of walking the line.

Übers Ziel

Ich bin übers Ziel hinausgeschossen. Ich hab dich mit Isolierband repariert und Blumen gemalt, wo Risse waren. Hab gesagt, dass vielleicht nur eine kleine Narbe bleibt und alles gut wird. Natürlich, alles gut. Ich griff nach deiner Hand, den Berg hinauf und hinunter, in Gedanken am Strand. Den Blick nach vorn, drückte ich deine Linke im Takt meiner Schritte, erzählte vom Meer und vom Ankommen und jedes zweite Wort war "bald". Fühlst du das Rauschen? Bald kannst du es sehen. Hörst du das Salz in der Luft? Den wogenden Horizont? Alles wird gut. Und nur dein Zauberpuls als Antwort, meinen Arm hinauf und dort angekommen, verharrte er unsicher zwischen Kopf und Brustkorb. Deinen Herzschlag in der Kehle, fühlte ich mich verstanden.

Und nur nach vorn. Durch Felder und dann über Dünen und endlich am Ufer. Und ich wollte sagen, Schau, wie groß es ist! Kannst du das Ende sehen? Oder auch nur erahnen? Wir könnten versuchen, hindurch zu schwimmen und kämen niemals an! Wir könnten uns hierhin setzen und es würde Tag und Nacht und dann Winter und wieder Sommer und wir würden alt werden vielleicht, aber das Meer wäre immer noch genauso unheimlich groß. Und auch meine Liebe wär noch da. Genauso unheimlich groß. Das wollte ich sagen und holte Luft, sah dich an - doch es war nur deine Hand. Ohne Arm, ohne Schulter, nur ein bisschen Isolierband klebte noch daran. Alles wird gut. Aber eine Hand wächst nicht wieder nach. Keine Narbe. Nur ein fühlbares Nichts. Alles wird gut, hab ich gesagt... ob sie dir wohl fehlen? Die fünf Finger, meine Lieblingshand? Ob sie dir wohl fehlt? Ich bin übers Ziel hinausgeschossen. Vielleicht wird alles... Am Ende könnte das Meer doch zurück weichen. Ein Horizont aus Festland könnte auftauchen. Wenn ich nur lang genug schaue. Vielleicht ist auch das Meer nur heimlich groß.

Two girls on a bike

We were just two girls on a bike.

And while I brought you home
you held on tightly.
We breathed and laughed
four lungs
full of being in awe.

The powdered streets
and your mittens
were a testimony
of our recklessness -
January can be part of our spring, too!

Riding through a sleeping city,
the steam clouds
of our breath
trailing behind us...
that was when we took a first sip
of that dizzying happiness.

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Dieser Monat ist lang. I was afraid of writing songs and losing them with you.

With no mistakes...

I came across something today and thought I'd share:

"Dear Human: You've got it all wrong. You didn't come here to master unconditional love. That is where you came from and where you'll return. You came here to learn personal love. Universal love. Messy love. Sweaty love. Crazy love. Broken love. Whole love. Infused with divinity. Lived through the grace of stumbling. Demonstrated through the beauty of... messing up. Often. You didn't come here to be perfect. You already are. You came here to be gorgeously human. Flawed and fabulous. And then to rise again into remembering."

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I've wanted to be a linguist since I was 11 years old. I remember it clearly. The term came up on one of my favourite records of that time and I asked my mom what a linguist was and what they did. Since then I wanted to be a linguist. I've always had a thing for words and for literature too. But the more I came to know the more I knew that language rather than literature would be my playground. I've wanted to be a linguist for more than 13 years now. I took up studying two languages and for lack of confidence (or as I would rather put it, as a sensible way of keeping options open) I did so with the aspiration of becoming a teacher. Not as a mere cover, but because I liked the idea of working with young people, of going back to school, of providing some sort of inspiration... I wrote my Bachelor's thesis on transitivity and I aced my linguistic exams. I was offered a job as a research aid and I was asked to teach the linguistics tutorials for the second year students. Just a few days ago I held my first session in an introductory linguistics seminar, because one of the other lecturers will be missing for the rest of the term due to an accident. I got back the first results on my Master's thesis. I am thrilled. I might be on the brink of becoming a linguist.
Yet, I am not quite sure if I will pursue this opportunity. I find myself struggling with research. I find myself unable to share the joy of understanding processes of language change with anyone who gets it. I find myself reluctant to give up another 3 years for corpora and books... I am about to pass on the opportunity of writing a PhD, I always thought I wanted. Maybe it's time to be something else than a linguist. I just have to figure it out.

One of these days...

you will find yourself standing in the kitchen in early July cutting strawberry hearts for the person you hope to spend the rest of your life with. And in that precious moment you will not think about the cycle of breaking and healing that got you there. You will not think about all the love letters that you carried around in your chest long before you wrote them. You will not think of the kisses and bruises and dreams and dances and butterflies that seem to be a lifetime away now. You will be cutting strawberry hearts, a believer again. And you will not think about how you fell before. But all your being spells out the beauty of falling and flying.

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I will teach tomorrow. Not like I taught lessons before. I will teach a topic that is so dear to me, I'm afraid my nervey will kill me. My aim for tomorrow is not that everybody understands. My aim is to make them see how much I love it. To make them see that it is something you can be passionate about. Tomorrow will show if I'm cut out for it after all.

That's no silver lining. It's a golden picture frame.

There will come dark days. Even though dark days aren't my liquor anymore. There will come dark days. But today is a victory. An unforeseen surge of luck like blank paper and a pen. I'm granted an opportunity I didn't dare hope for... and even more unexpedtly, I find myself ready.
My life really tries to make nice for these final steps of my student life. I will tell you more after I made it through the first shock of euphoria.

... und dann habe ich die Musik gekauft

Also. Wie sich das hier so anlässt, denke ich, dass 2013 ziemlich gut wird. Fantastisch sozusagen. Erschreckend auch, dass offenbar eine direkte Beziehung zwischen meiner Aufstehzeit und meiner Tagesstimmung besteht. Gibt dem Wecker Recht.
"life is beautiful" steht an der Tafel des Seminarraums, den ich heute unverrichteter Dinge aber froh verlassen habe. So früh im neuen Jahr wollte doch noch keiner zum Tutorium. Mir ist es recht. Ich lade das Lied herunter, das es sein muss für diese Woche, da es seit Tagen in meinem Kopf spielt. Noch 8 Wochen. 8 Wochen Studium. Die Bewerbung auf neues, größeres läuft bereits, die letzten Hausarbeiten sind angefangen, es geht zu Ende. Woohoo!

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Decide what you want to be. Then go, be it.

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Today is the happiest day in a very long time. 8 weeks to go. 40 pages to write. So much steps to take.

2013

Es ist 2013 seit ein paar Stunden. Man müsste dieses Jahr vielleicht neu und ganz anders beginnen. Es müsste einen Bruch geben, der das Alte klar vom Neuen trennt. Aber wir bleiben. Das Feuerwerk war nicht unser Startschuss und nur das Chaos in der Küche erinnert an den feuchtfröhlichen Abschied von 2012. Wir haben die Hände hochgerissen und uns gefragt, was das für ein Jahr war. Echt war es. Ein Jahr voller privater Realpolitik. Mit technicolor Höhenflügen und dem Grau, dem Schwarz, dem Dunkel auch. Man müsste dieses Jahr vielleicht neu und ganz anders beginnen. So wie jeden Tag.
Unsere Herzen sind nicht glattpoliert. Auch wir sind echt. Ganz echt. Und extra.

Schneemädchen.

Es hat geschneit. Endlos viel. In meinem Kopf. 142 cm. Und es war jemand da. Vielleicht bist das gar nicht du. Und es schneit und schneit. Weil niemand sagt, was jeder weiß.

Ghost of Christmas Yet To Come

I want to tell you about my christmas... kinda.

I didn't really feel the christmas spirit this year, what with being home for no December weekend at all, no church service all December, no shoe polishing for St. Nicholas (well, I tried but lack sufficient tools), no guitar playing on Christmas Eve to look forward to (my brother celebrated with the family of his girlfriend for the first time)... so it didn't strike me as too outlandish, when I met with some old school friends on the 23rd and one of them told me, she and her family were not celebrating Christmas this year: "No presents, no Christmas, just a family dinner - so looking forward to it!", that's how she put it. And I understood. The humdrum shopping every year, the hectic pre-Christmas life, the sometimes forced family gatherings... it can be deterring...

I know Christmas is a cultural thing and while it my not be an exclusively christian thing anymore, it is in (formerly) christian societies where it really flourishes. And so if some people think it absolutely ridiculous to sing cheesy songs about a baby they do not believe in or observe the blending of secular follies and christian tradition with bewilderment, I will not persuade them to embrace christmas. Just like no one will make me embrace Yom Kippur. So that's that.
But at some point this Christmas Eve it struck me that those who had celebrated Christmas all their lives - by choice, may I add - and now decided to just let it slide, could not have celebrated it the way my family does, the way I do. Yes, we get each other presents. And no it isn't our main concern in the weeks leading up to Christmas. Yes, we go all out with the cooking for Christmas. And no it isn't just a chore, it is a family activity, an opportunity for extravaganza and joking and creating something together. Yes, we have a tight schedule on Christmas Eve starting at 7 in the morning and my last church service starting at 11 pm. But no, it is not just a hubbub we have to get through. Half past seven is the set dinner time and every step leading up to it, is what brings Christmas to life, is necessary to set this day apart from all the others. My little brother is terribly nervous, my mother is preoccupied with the sermons and the rest of us coordinate the normal everyday necessities with the Christmas preparations: Cooking something for lunch, arranging the presents in the living room, preparing dinner, hoovering the whole flat once more, learning poems and songs by heart, attending the two church services always ready to extinguish fire should one break out with all the candles... Yes, we have extended family over for Christmas. And no, we are not pretending to be and example of harmonious family life. We keep it in a time range everyone can stomach, so we all can make it through feeling good. We play the new games we got for Christmas, this year we'll go to the opera, we eat together, we talk, we depart.
Yes, we do all of these things. But neither of them is our priority. We are home. We relish in the fact that even my grandma still knows all the songs and poems and stories by heart. We are stressed out and sometimes hot headed, but we come back to this evening with a tenderness and a quiet that is worth all of it.

"Bist du der eigenen Rätsel müd?
Es kommt, der alles kennt und sieht..."

"I want you to die

the way I died." And isn't that all kinds of wrong? Isn't it vile and ugly and selfish and tremendously sad? It certainly is the reason why humans do not come with superpowers. Because they stop caring about the world and the greater good, once they are thrown off balance.

There's no point in crossing your fingers for this Friday. What hasn't happened in those last 20 years, will surely not come about now. There's no reason to keep holding on to the misery and the carelessness. It is ugly. And tremendously sad. No superpowers. No apocalypse. Just the two voices in your head. One is saying "push through"... and the other one is lying.

Ladies,

I am a real catch. Even if I say so myself. :)

"Don't move so slow..."

"... I can't take it..." Because I felt I was getting nowhere and because I need all my procrastination for university and work, I decided to set up a new plan for training that is less vague and trades rest days for alternative activity. I am on it since Monday and so far I am not quite sure what to think of it. I haven't run this slowy for a very long time. And I haven't laced up my running shoes for a mere 5 kilometers for the same time. It feels a bit ridiculous. But I will give the plan a chance. So far it is laid out for 6 weeks and the intervals(starting next week! :) ) look quite challenging. Hopefully, it will be less frustrating then. For now I am just running reeeeeeeeally slowly. Which might be an advantage considering the snow and the ice on the street...

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If somehow, miraculously, you were given ten days, ten nights and no morning beyond - where would you take them? If you had ten days left, what would you eat, where would you sleep, what would you see? For 240 hours, how much would you allow yourself to feel? If we were given counted time, instead of endless endeavour, would all of this still matter? Would we still plan ahead and have to deal with regret? If we were sure it ended, would we begin to begin? Or can't we break out, is this numbness our skin?
Maybe you have ten days. Or maybe it's two. Or twenty-thousand. Maybe it's always to soon. And if I had ten nights and no morning beyond... I'd spend some with you.
And nothing hurt.

Hey, they are playing that song...

I just wondered if you will remember the song. I guess, the pain will stay. I will have to find a way to relish in this life anyway. Sign me up, Santa Fe...

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The snow is falling just the way I love it and I finally laid my hands on that book on psycholinguistics that I always wanted to read. It is for work obviously. I think I will take it home with me for the weekend. And I will devour it like a novel. Psycholinguistics is very dear to my heart, as it ties in with so many theories I've developed from my early childhood onwards. Language is fascinating.  

What if there is no right moment?

What if one day you find yourself transformed into the most stunning butterfly, with technicolor wings and such grace and agility, it is hard to believe you've ever been anything else? You find yourself cut out for everything. The sunny side of life has finally caught up to you, a soft summer breeze is propelling you along and you just know that this was worth all the waiting. Sounds good? Well, it might happen.

Or maybe it won't. So you might as well try to be the jolliest caterpillar in the whole wide world. Day in, day out.

Die Welt lässt sich nicht besiegen

Egal, wie früh wir aufstehen. Egal, wie weit wir gelaufen sind. Die Welt lässt sich nicht besiegen. Am Besten wäre wohl, wenn wir das einsähen. Und die Richtung wechseln. Damit nicht wir am Ende die Besiegten sind.

"You know, I'm all for your desire. I crave the feeling of you wanting me naked, the feeling I get when I hear you gasping... but tonight, can we do something else? I would really need you to hold me without falling asleep right away. I would like you to experience this freakishly demanding need of being in contact with me, just like I experience it. So you could just hold me. And you would want to stay close to me, even if you're uncomfortable lying this way, because in some way you cannot fathom what sleep is for now that you are lying next to me. I would really need that. "

Wishlist

Alright, people. I think I've been milking the heavy stuff for quite some time now. And now the point has come to touch on some other topics. As you all know, Christmas is approaching. And in case you are not totally counting on being saved by some apocalypse, I am sure you will spend some time thinking about presents and wishes and the economic rush hour that is Christmas time.
If your friends are avid believers in the end of the world, I am sure they will appreciate you packing a survival backpack for them. Which may include tequila (highly recommended), duct tape, chewing gum (MacGyver was never without it), a torch, water filtration kit, basic medication and some of these.
If that doesn't work... I am sorry. You're on your own then. Which can be really tricky especially because Christmas seems to be one of those times when you cannot remember for the life of you all the things you always wanted to have... Which is the original reason for this blogpost. I just remembered what I wanted. And I will post it here, so I can read it later:

comic underwear. No kidding. I always wanted some. If you don't understand what I mean, look here or here.

I will get back to you with more crude wishes later. And in the meantime I encourage you to think about your own. Write them down. Tell people. Otherwise you might get one of those survival backpacks... just saying ;) 

So are we girlfriends then?

You cannot move away. Not now that technically there is a place for you as my physicist-wife. We could be annoyingly nerdy. We could have spontaneous dance parties in the kitchen to songs we're both too young to know. We could throw all our tableware against walls when it gets too unbearable to be at each other's mercy. I could wake you in the dead of night, because early mornings are my thing, and you could hold my hands through the caffeine shock, while I try to join you for a long night. We could be unconventional together. We could think up sweet escape scenarios and arrive at the decision of staying time and again. I could paint a house for you and the colours of a sunrise and we would never move in, but camp in the backyard. We could take ballroom dance classes to embarass your parents on your sister's wedding. We could write endless to-do-lists and then spend the day in bed, because nothing could be more important than that. We could be good together. Really good.

There's just this one thing:
We can't.
You're hung up on that knight of yours and I don't want to get over my ex-girlfriend. So much so, that it makes me nauseous to think the word: Ex-girlfriend.

But let me tell you one thing: There's a really good chance they won't come back. And this thing we're doing right now? That's pathetic. So, you know, once I get over the denial and the anger and the bargaining and the depression... once I get there, I will wake up to see you've been that tad bit quicker. And I will regret it.

Now that is all I've had to say within the last two years

summed up in a two minute dance performance. Impressive.

Ok, Anna Calvi strikes me as slightly uncanny, but this music video is definitely one of my favourites.
Other than that I've come to the conclusion that I cannot be sorry for myself like that for more than two days. So in case this continues, I will embrace the stupidity I was born with, go out there and get me a bloody nose. Nothing like a mess, to clean things up, right?